I’ve long wondered if this - that women don’t recognize the symptoms of a heart attack in themselves, and consequently don’t get the fast care that is vital for heart attack survival - is the reason heart disease is the #1 killer in women. Women statistically take better care of themselves health-wise, than men do. Women see doctors more frequently and are more likely to follow those doctors’ recommendations closely. Why would both men and women have the same most common cause of death?
Heart attack symptoms in men are well known. We all know what it means when a guy on TV clutches his chest or left arm and falls over. This scene is often followed by a rush to the emergency room in an ambulance, and a shirtless guy being shocked back to sinus rhythm with the electric paddles. “CLEAR!” Right? Everyone knows that’s what a heart attack looks like. Because of TV.
Except you can’t show a topless woman on TV - and you can’t defibrillate a woman in a bra. So victims of heart attacks on TV are *always* male. Did you know that a woman having a heart attack is more likely to have back or jaw pain than chest or left arm pain? I didn’t - because I’ve never seen a woman having a heart attack. I’ve been trained in CPR and Advanced First Aid by the Red Cross over 15 times in my life, the videos and booklets always have a guy and say the same thing about clutching his chest and/or bicep.
And people laugh when I tell them women are still invisible in this world.
Things I did not know, but should.
“The study found that 42% of women who have heart attacks never experience the “classic heart attack symptom” of tightness or pain in the chest. Instead, they may develop pain in the back or jaw, light-headedness, nausea, vomiting and shortness of breath.”
I remember reading about this earlier, this is important to know.
That’s the thing, gay subtext doesn’t actually mean that the couple in question is queer, no matter how hard one might ship it.
Fanon isn’t canon. For those of us who are pretty deeply immersed in fandom, we blur the lines, because we like fan-created material more than the official creations. Canon doesn’t mean half as much to us as do the versions we hold in our heads.
But what matters politically is canon, not fandom. What actually has an impact, what will be seen and discussed, what has the potential to change society, are the officially recognized versions of the stories aired on television and in film and published in our books.
When are we going to actually get some queer text, rather than subtext?
° Watson is no longer the accomplished and decorated war hero and army doctor, two aspects of the character which have always, in some way or another, coloured the way the character behaves and the decisions they make. Not only does it change the character, but it sends a message that women aren’t capable of fighting for their country.
° Related to the above, Watson has no longer been invalided home from anywhere. Again, this is not only important to the character, but sends a message that war wounds are only sexy on men and that women are too weak to go through that.
° She’s a disgraced surgeon who’s lost her license. Oh. Not only has she had the military career erased, but she’s incompetent as well? Fabulous. There are so many other reasons for her to be able to be Jonny Lee Miller’s Boswell without also taking away the one thing that does make her successful. This is completely unnecessary, and once again sends the message that women can’t cope in fields that are predominately male-dominated.
°Joan Three Continents Watson will never fly. As much as I’d love to see this aspect remain intact, I strongly doubt it will. And I think this will be the biggest disappointment of the lot.
Poor reasons to be annoyed with CBS right now:
° Watson is a woman, so all the gay will be erased. What gay, exactly? The only Holmes I can ever recall as being canonically stated as gay was from the Private Life of Sherlock Holmes, and Watson was horrified to learn this. All other adaptations where homosexuality is mentioned have been rife with ‘lol they said “gay”’ jokes.
° Watson being a woman will kill the ship. Yes, because heterosexuals are so disgusting. Oh wait…
° I prefer to look at manmeat in my porn. … I don’t want to live on this planet anymore. I can’t even begin to articulate how ridiculous this is.
TL;DR: Yes. it is fine and dandy to be upset for CBS, but a lot of people are being upset for the WAY wrong reasons.
Welp! That’s great! Gonna rant now! AS USUAL WHAT ELSE IS NEW
Before he was 8, things were fine and dandy and he’s a happy adorable snotrag!
He isin’t treated any differently and if he is, he’s too young to notice at the time.
He’s 10. He’s talented at creating animation and draws like a pro.
Early primary school; things are fine but he feels a little confused that he’s one of the very few black kids in his school. Apart from that, he enjoys school and no trouble making friends. Still a witty & bright little smartass!
12 years old. Parents are called into school because teacher feels my brother cheated on a test (he was one of the few that scored the highest. Also the only black boy in his class).
Brother is confused. Says he didn’t cheat on anything. Parents tell him not to cheat and to work harder.
The year goes by. Parents are called in again. Teacher puts my brother at the very back of the class because “he was late for school”.
13 years old. A little bit wary of how his teacher only seems to target him- and only him- in his entire class of 20+ pupils. Notices he’s the only one in class not getting enough attention for homework stuff. Doesn’t put his hand up in class for questions much anymore because parents are always called in because ‘he asks too much questions’.
14years old. Last year. There’s a group science project (the group with the best science model gets to represent their school and meet the President of Ireland). Years of being good with drawings, animation and now physics helps him a lot. Other teacher remarks on how great his science model was. His group wins. He gets to meet the president.
Principal tells my brother he’s no longer allowed in his own group work. He’s replaced with a white boy that’s not even in his class. This boy and the rest of the group are the ones to meet the President and be on local newspaper. With his science project on the front.
My brother is devastated. He cried so hard the entire night. He was frustrated, confused, angry and shocked.
The principal asks my brother to join the group again right after they other boys have met the president. My brother joins but he’s raging. He’s wary. The president will never know that the boy who made the science project that was on the newspapers was him. A black boy.
He doesn’t talk much in class anymore. He doesn’t raise his hands up anymore. He doesn’t care. School sucks. Parents are called in about his ‘bad attitude’. Parents are alert at what’s going on but say nothing because they threatened their son with expulsion.
Brother knows his teacher hates him and singles him out. He has learnt to not be smart in class. He now hangs around a rough crowd (he’s never done this before). School sucks, who cares when your teacher mocks u in front of everyone else?
He gets into big trouble these days. His grades are slipping. He even smashed a neighbour’s window ‘for fun’.
He’s watching other black kids in his area stereotyped as lazy hooligans.
He is sort of becoming one. He still loves to draw and is still a bright boy in school. Teacher not happy with it because he prefers if my brother does nothing.
I’m MAAAAD when I find out finally why my brother has changed so much. I hate the world. I hate white people sometimes. You have made my brother believe that he’s good for nothing at school. He was a bright and smart-assy kid.
He’s a wary and quiet boy now.
And you have no fucking idea how exhusting it is to remind him everyday that he’s just as good as all the other boys. Fuck you. I fucking hate this world. I fucking hate you for telling me that ‘racism is over, its all in your head’
I fucking HATE that my little sister (8) is being mocked by the kids in her class for ‘having chocolate fingers he wants to eat’. My sister is uncomfortable in that class when that kid is around.
I hate you for telling the world that black people aren’t good enough unless they are at the back of the class, shutting the fuck up. I hate everything at this moment.
If racism completely alters my brother’s perception of himself, i will cry. I will rage. And I will be called the angry black fucking woman.
And tomorrow and the rest of his childhood, he’s going to have to get over this and pretend it doesn’t happen. Pretend racism doesn’t happen.
She was a badass anti-whiteness radical who worked for years prior to the boycott as a secratary for the NAACP of Montgomery (1943) to investigate interracial sexualized violence of black women used by white supremacists in the south as a means to sustain racial hierarchy.
By the age of ten, Rosa was as defiant as her grandfather (who would carry around a double barreled gun regularly ). “I saw Franklin,” she announced to her grandmother one summer day, referring to a notorious white bully. “He threatened to hit me,” she said. “I picked up a brick and dared him to hit me.” ” It had been pass down in our genes,”Rosa recalls later, “that a proud African American can simply not accept bad treatment from anybody.”
Ironically Elliott’s latest film, A Few Best Men, is a very heterosexual take on the wedding comedy. Starring Xavier Samuel and Olivia Newton-John, it follows a groom and his three best men as they travel to the Australian outback for a wedding. “Xavier was fantastic,” Elliott raves. “It was a big challenge for him because he’s not a natural comedian – and he knew that. He had the most difficult role in the film – I remember telling him, ‘this is ‘Die Hard: The Wedding’, and you’re Bruce Willis.’ The outtakes are just him, one after the other, not being able to keep a straight face. The film is so stupid, but I’m really proud of it.”
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Here’s the deal: I am fairly confident Xavier doesn’t have an official website, Twitter, or Facebook that he runs himself or is admittedly affiliated with. Obviously, it is possible he has a Twitter or Facebook that isn’t public but, really, we’ll never know that if he doesn’t want us to. I have seen quite a few fakes, though, but thus far, they seem fairly easy to spot.
Take for instance, this Twitter (no offense to said Twitterer and feel free to have a different opinion than I). I have a tendency not to believe this particular “Xavier” because of this post. Does that look like an Anonymous picture? Or does it look like a Drift picture (not to mention the fact that the girl in the photo is also his costar Lesley-Ann Brandt from Drift - and a pic she had posted about a month before)? And I am positive the actual Xavier would know the difference. But, hey, like I said - it’s simply my opinion.
can anyone tell me why people on tumblr now have the uncontrollable need to repeat comments they find funny and then someone else has the need to bold it for some kind of emphasis repeated ad infinitum until we have nothing but a comment train that is the same line over and over
A number of men have asked us the same question recently: if you’re walking on a dark street near a lady, how can you let her know you’re not a threat? So this week, we offer some tips for dudes who’d like to help women feel more comfortable in public spaces.
Treat a woman and girl like they are your equal, like you would another man and boy as he walks down the streets. You would give him his own personal space, if you wanted his attention to ask him something you would assess his non verbal cues, ask him from a comfortable distance so he doesn’t feel threatened, accept his answer and move on. Do the same thing to women and girls as we walk down the street.
Don’t walk too close.
One way to help a lady feel safe in public space is to give her space. Says Smith,
I want to stress that men and boys should not walk too close to women and girls – it’s creepy and threatening. Give us our personal space, if we want to engage in a conversation we will make that very clear. Don’t touch our hair or grab us by the hand. If you say, “hello” or “can I talk to you for a minute”, if we want to engage we prefer to do so willingly, not because we are threatened by you and think that we have to stop our you will be angry. That’s not the way to start a relationship.
You don’t have to stay a block behind her, just don’t crowd her. You probably have an idea of what a non-creepy distance feels like. Emily May of Hollaback! says that “people can read intent,” and if you’re not trying to get too close to a woman or stare at her, she’ll probably feel better.
If you’re walking behind a woman and you don’t want to scare her, you could try just announcing your presence. Smith tells this story of “a time when I was leisurely walking with a female friend down the street as the sun was going down, we were the only two people I could see for a few blocks”:
As we were walking we could hear the distant scuff of boots quickly approaching us from behind but before we could turn our heads around to see who was coming our way we heard, “hey ladies, I just want to give you a heads up that I’m coming up behind you ” when we turned around the man was about 10 feet behind us simply walking a lot faster then us and on his way to his next destination. As he passed us we said, “thank you for the heads up” he said “no problem, just didn’t want to startle or scare you. Have a good night” — this was a man that understood that men approaching women on the street (for whatever the reason) will more likely than not be perceived by women as threatening and that he could help to curve that feeling and myth ‘that all men are dangerous’ by simply giving us a heads up. It’s one example of what more men should do (especially at night) to help women feel less threatened by their presence.
Sometimes just a heads-up is enough to let a lady know you’re a decent dude and not planning to attack her.
Make a call.
Irvin described a time when he was walking behind a woman who was becoming visibly agitated by his presence. One trick he tried to set her at ease was calling his fiancee on his cell phone. Obviously just making a phone call doesn’t mean you’re not a threat — but it could be a way of showing a woman that you’re not focused on her. Depending on the situation, this could be enough to make her feel better.
If they make eye contact, he could give a nice, friendly smile and nod, but if they’re just passing each other on the street, I wouldn’t recommend speaking, unless it’s just a simple “hello” or “good evening ma’am.” If they’re standing somewhere, like waiting for a light to change or waiting for a bus, he should keep some distance from her and not stare and again keep any conversation limited to hello unless she initiates a conversation first.
If you want to talk more, wait for a better opportunity.
Contrary to men’s rights stereotypes, respecting a lady’s personal space does not mean no one ever dates and the human race ceases to exist. It merely entails acknowledging that if you want to get to know a lady, a dark street is not the place to start. She may be scared and even resentful, and probably won’t be receptive. Says Kearl,
If a man really wants to approach a woman to meet her, he should pick a populated area and preferably not do it when he is with friends but she is alone or when it’s dark. He could start off with a hello and neutral small talk and if she reacts well — smiling and eye contact — then continue on to asking more about herself or asking for her phone number. But making sure it is a setting where she will hopefully feel comfortable is important or else he could make her feel unsafe from the start without meaning to.
Trust us, a lady is going to like you a lot more if she feels comfortable and safe.
Listen to women, and advocate for them.
The above are all situational things a guy can do when he’s already on the street with a lady. But there are some general steps he can take too. May says men can help women as a whole by “asking them about their experiences and offering a safe space to talk” — she adds that many men are shocked when they find out how bad street harassment really is, and that “male outrage can be really comforting.” It can be nice to know that someone gets it — and is angry on your behalf. Irvin also notes that guys can talk to other guys about appropriate boundaries with women, and let their friends know they’ll be held accountable for violating those. And men can be active in anti-street-harassment campaigns or lobby their lawmakers to take the issue more seriously. Kearl says “the most important thing for men to understand is that most women perceive public places differently from most men” — but by being decent and helping other guys do the same, men can help women in public feel more like equals.
On one occasion I was walking to the bus at like 5am (I used to be a bank teller once upon a lifetime), and this dude could tell I was nervous he was behind me and crossed the street and smiled at me in a nonthreatening way. It meant a lot to me. We ended up going to the same stop and he apologized for scaring me and I thanked him for crossing the street to calm my nerves.