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50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada
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Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticized fiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.
so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex
it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine
i know my shit okay
im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid
knowledge on you right now.
Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.
So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.
Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.
Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.
Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.
Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.
^I’m just going to stand up for this and clap
Remember that petition about organ transplants being denied for autistic people that was going around about 2 weeks ago?
During those two weeks, it’s gotten maybe 2,000 signatures.
In the next 4 days (by Friday, December 14th) it needs 16,457 more.
Or it doesn’t pass.
Now, what I want to know is, why are you not signing it? Seriously, it takes what, maybe 2 minutes? You can spend
hoursnearly the entire day scrolling through thousands of meaningless pictures of thin girls, big sweaters, coffee cups, cat gifs, shirtless guys, witty text posts, and porn, but you can’t take 2 freaking minutes to sign something that has the possibility to save someone’s life?
Please sign, this is really important! D8
[Image description: Photoset of pictures taken at sunset on a second-story back porch. On the porch is a black woman in her early twenties, wearing a blue flower-print sundress, and two black children—a toddler boy in a lime-green shirt, and a preschool-age girl in a pink shirt and khaki shorts. End image description.]
This is my neighbor Plum, aka. plumbunny, and her two kids. DeAnthony (2) and Jasmyne (4). I’m gonna lay this out, short and sweet:
- Some serious bullshit went down with the cops and the children’s dad is in jail.
- A fluke left them with a $500+ electricity bill at the beginning of the month, just before rent was due.
- Plum’s job decided not to use sick pay for the sick days she took while coping with various psychiatric issues. Her last paycheck was $36.34.
- Plum still owes rent that was due on the first.
- Plus late fees.
- It’s a goddamn fucking miracle they haven’t evicted her family, knowing the apartment complex manager.
- She has nowhere to go but the shelter downtown if she does get evicted.
- She’s been my neighbor for three years.
- My best friend for two years.
- She only needs $50 to pay off her rent.
I’m hooking up my paypal (teh.flea(a)gmail(.)com) for the sole reason of taking donations for her.
Every cent goes to her.
Please, guys, I’m not asking for me. I have places to turn. Plum doesn’t. If you have just a dollar or two to kick her way, I would be grateful. (I’ll even draw you something for you in MSPaint, whenever I have a minute free from work.)
If you can’t donate, signal boost and reblog, please.
[Top image: A young, brown-skinned girl wearing glasses and a black hoodie with red and white silkscreened words and images. She has black hair in bangs with the rest pulled to the sides.
Bottom image: Printscreen of a Facebook post from Tina Dixon which reads “FB Fam, Please Help me find my daughter. Aminah Jackson was last seen September 1st 2012 in Northfield NJ. She is 14, 5’3” approx 120lbs. She may not have her glasses. She is also known as “Destiny”. If you have any information about her whereabouts please call 646-327.6944 or 718-749-4844 or email me Tina@whcr.org]
If anyone has information, please contact the woman via the numbers/email address provided above or just send me a message. This was posted on Facebook on 9/6/2012 around 5PM EST, so this seems fairly recent. I’ll definitely make sure any and all updates are forwarded, but for now, I just want her to get home safe.
AMINAH WAS FOUND THIS MORNING!
thank you to everyone who boosted and shared, thank you SOOOOOOOO much, i really appreciate all of you from the bottom of my heart. I’m glad that she was found and is safe with her mother again and that there are so many people who care about the wellbeing of our children.
and for fucks sake, y’all. this is NOT ABOUT HOW SOME DUDE IS GROSSED OUT BY THE WORD VAGINA.
this is about how the state of michigan just ended welfare eligibility for a HUGE portion of michiganders—of which A VAST PORTION OF THOSE PEOPLE ARE CHILDREN and of which a VAST PORTION OF THOSE CHILDREN ARE CHILDREN OF COLOR.
yes, it’s irritating that some old fucking rich white christian gags at the thought of vagina—but it’s a devastating moral, ethical and humanitarian CATASTROPHE that all those children of color that you are forcing to be born ARE GOING HUNGRY and WITHOUT ADEQUATE SHELTER as a result of your attacks on reproductive rights.
Just once, I need us to all be looking in the RIGHT FUCKING DIRECTION.
guys, you know that celebrity that you really, really hate because they say/have said some really gross, messed up shit?
and it’s even more annoying because that celebrity has a massive following full of people who think the sun shines out of their arse?
NEVER FEAR, I AM A SIGNAL BOOSTING MACHINE, HERE TO RUIN EVERYONE ELSE’S FUN.
i’m here to name and shame all the douchebags, from all the medias.
all i need is a name, a quote and a source, then put it in my ask/submit.
fly my pretties, fly!
My friend’s sister is missing. Please spread the word if you can. She was last seen in Queens NY.
obviously not topical, but I’ve been on topic for god knows how many posts; I think we can afford to do some serious signal-boosting.
Please reblog this. Stacey English was last seen in Atlanta on Christmas Day. Her car has been found abandoned, but her whereabouts are still unknown. If you have seen her or know her whereabouts please contact the numbers in the flyer!
My brother lives in Buckhead. I’ll send this to him.
Fannie Lou Hamer (1917-1977)
Peace to Ms Hamer and all the Black, Native American and Latin Woman who were subjected to forced sterilization.
MS Fannie Lou Hamer was a Wife, Daughter, Black Activist, A major figure in the civil rights movement and…a victim.
Back in 1961 Fannie Lou was diagnosed with a small uterine tumor. She checked into the Sunflower City Hospital to have it removed. Without her knowledge or consent, without any indication of medical necessity, the operating physician took the liberty of performing a complete hysterectomy.
Three years later, as a leader of the Mississippi Freedom Democratic Party, Ms. Hamer spoke about her experience to an audience in Washington D.C. – telling them that she was one of many black women in her area that had been a victim of a “Mississippi appendectomy” (an unwanted, unrequested and unwarranted hysterectomy given to poor and unsuspecting Black women). According to research, 60% of the black women in Sunflower County, Mississippi were subjected to postpartum sterilizations at Sunflower City Hospital without their permission.
A number of physicians who examined these women after the procedure was performed confirm that the practice of sterilizing Southern Black women through trickery or deceit was widespread.
But it does not end there. The forced sterilization of black women got its start during slavery, but has persisted in less overt forms in recent years. A 1991 experiment that implanted the now-defunct birth control device Norplant into African American teenagers in Baltimore was applauded by some observers as a way to “reduce the underclass.”
Dr. Lester Hibbard of L.A. County Hospital admits in 1972 that vaginal tubal ligations were sometimes selected over abdominal tubal ligations because of their “instructional value,” even though the vaginal procedure often led to serious complications.
According to the acting director of a municipal hospital in New York City in 1975, “In most major teaching hospitals in New York City, it is the unwritten policy to do elective hysterectomies on poor, Black, and Puerto Rican women with minimal indications, to train residents … at least 10% of gynecological surgery in New York is done on this basis. And 99% of this is done on Blacks and Puerto Rican women.”
During the late 1960s and the early 1970s, a policy of involuntary surgical sterilization was imposed upon Native American women in the United States, usually without their knowledge or consent, by the federally funded Indian Health Service (IHS), then run by the Bureau of Indian Affairs (BIA). It is alleged that the existence of the sterilization program was discovered by members of the American Indian Movement (AIM) during its occupation of the BIA headquarters in 1972. A 1974 study by Women of All Red Nations (WARN), concluded that as many as 42 percent of all American Indian women of childbearing age had, by that point, been sterilized without their consent.
A subsequent investigation was conducted by the U.S. General Accounting Office (GAO), though it was restricted to only four of the many IHS facilities nationwide and examined only the years 1973 to 1976. The GAO study showed that 3,406 involuntary sterilizations were performed in these four IHS hospitals during this three-year period. Consequently, the IHS was transferred to the Department of Health and Human Services in 1978.
by Serena Sebring
Forced sterilization of BLACK, NATIVE AMERICAN, AND PUERTO RICAN women. Yet another affirmation of why it is important for minorities to unite and fight for one another.
I’ve read about Fannie Lou Hamer several times, and each time it makes me sick. Though recently, its made me sicker… and angry.
I think this speaks to the fact that as a woman, you need to be able to be empowered about your health. And that if a woman is poor, lacks education and happens to be brown, her ability to do so is significantly diminished.
Just because its 2011 doesn’t mean that this kind of thing hasn’t stopped.
I’ll use myself as an example. When I was diagnosed with fibroids and ovarian cysts in 2009 (after basically diagnosing myself because they were trying to treat me for PID), the first gyn I went to told me that his surgical plan was to remove my ovaries, since the cysts were so large.
I told him that was unacceptable because I haven’t had any children, and I was married to a man I wanted to have kids with. He told me I might have to give up my dream of conceiving with my husband. I told him I knew that cystectomies had been performed on cysts larger and more complex than mine (basically called his skills into question).
He looked at me funny for a moment… and basically told me to find another doctor.
So I did. A black, female reproductive endocrinologist who performed my surgery elegantly and preserved all my parts. She currently monitors my fertility so that when we choose to, we can have children.
But see… I have the benefit of having family in the medical field, as well as working in healthcare myself. I also have the benefit of extensive education and the ability to advocate for myself.
Many poor women don’t. Especially poor women of color.
I’m happy that so many of my friends are in the medical field… and that they themselves have been through experiences similar to mine. We need to do more though… and I’ve just been inspired. I have an idea.
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You may not need it, but REPOST for someone who does. This could be someone’s Christmas blessing!!
Calling everyone of these!!
This woman’s face!
“I would like to be present for this.”
this is hilarious!
This. It is indeed.
Logan, your logic.
Amuses me so much, but I will never admit.
I never said my school was easy.
Sometimes, being stricken dumb with terror is an excellent learning experience.
I wonder what the consequences are for forgetting your Blue Book at midterms.
Ta da! First comment at the top. Don’t go to that blog she links unless you feel like having an aneurysm.
Wow, way to erase women’s agency and individuality, nonsensical Jez commenter! That is very feminist of you.
Wow, her comments are creepy as fuck. What about penetration if it isn’t a cock, do you think she’d be good with that? Because finger fucking feels amazing.
Brain Test - If you are seeing this lady spinning clockwise, then it means you are using the right side of the brain. If you are seeing her spinning counter-clockwise, then you are using the left side of the brain.
Some people are able to see her spinning in both directions, but most of them see her rotating only in one. If you can see her spin in one directions and then make her spin in the other, then you are a part of a handful of people.Even if it might not seem so, both directions can be seen. Apparently, this fact has been proved at the Yale University, USA, after 5 years of studying the human brain and its functions. Supposedly only 14% of the US population can see her spinning in both directions.
Write’s note: I saw her go counter-clockwise, but then if I only looked at her feet, she started to spin clockwise. It took a bit longer afterwards to make her go counter-clockwise again. I have noticed that the illusion is caused by the perception of the viewer as he or she interprets the ambiguous frames where the spinning dancer’s body (legs and arms) cross over each other. Don’t forget to share your experience with us and tell us which way you saw her go. Need help to see her go the other way? Check out the help lady spin.
I always saw her clockwise. I tried but she never went the other direction.
EDIT: Here’s more info on the test.
Holy cannoli. She mostly goes clockwise for me, but if I stare at the wall behind her she’ll switch.
Optical illusions are BADASS. <3
Both directions, baby.
And she’ll just fucking switch out of nowhere. Stop that silhouette lady.
Zone61: I saw her go in both directions too.
I can make her switch. It gets easier the more I do it.
“BLACK AMERICANA: The Photo-Essay”
Vol. 1 - Island in the Sun
“Black Americana” is a four part photo-essay presenting a commentary on Black American life and patriotism.
When we weren’t marching, dodging fire hoses, and police dogs biting at our brown skin – when we weren’t singing songs of freedom, and training how to peacefully resist in southern sit-ins, we were doing what other Americans did – we went to the beach. “Island in the Sun”, a first installment in the ground-breaking series “Black Americana” re-introduces, and reclaims the image – the representation of free Black women and men living their lives openly and beautifully. The series seeks to offer a broader lens of Black American life not often seen – a restoration of Black bodies on a summer day in 1950’s America. “The beach setting is significant.” says Brandon Littlejohn, Creative Producer of “Black Americana”. “Beaches are visually associated with affluence in urban areas because of Black people’s limited access.” Littlejohn continues, “I wanted to capture Black young women and men in these spaces, because after all, this was a reality for Black people during this time.” This is the other side of the southern Black domestic worker; the other side of the Black male porter. This too was Black American life, in all of its splendor.
- Geneva S. Thomas
Creative Producer - Brandon Littlejohn
Photographer - Rod Gailes OBC
Wardrobe Design - Jamari Walker
Makeup Design - Dominique Jenelle
Hair Design - Shirlonda Brailsford
Casting - Latrice Davis
Women’s Bathing Suits designed by D’ Angelo Scott
Creative Producer, Brandon Littlejohn, and Photographer, Rod Gailes OBC, are collaborating to create a brilliant four-part photography series that showcases classic American settings through an Afro-Elite lens. The “Black Americana” series encourages African Americans to challenge societal messages about Blackness, while aspiring to higher levels of art and education on their own terms. Creating opportunities in the creative industry via a collective effort and artistically challenging the way African Americans have been conditioned to see themselves are two main goals of the “Black Americana” series.
-Taylor N. Lewis